never mind i got it working...not sure what went wrong still though!
i resorted to downloading ecommerce & payments again then re-applying my css and fixes. it all works fine now.
the only problems i have now are:
emails confirmations are sent twice (immediately), and always say "incomplete" yet if i press the back button to paypal recipt page, then follow the link through to mysite again, the emails are sent again with "success"? maybe the other ones are being sent too quickly and paypal doesnt have a chance to confirm the payment or something?
the other problem is stock control, i cant see any way to do it?!
is it not included?
i also see the "number sold" column is always "0"?
lastly, unchecking the "allow product to be purchased" box seems to do nothing.
im about to hand this site over to client and these seem like basic features that are missing :(
can anyone shed any light on this?
thanks!